There’re a few reasons why people might not listen when you’re speaking, but the good news is that you can address them:

1. Lack of confidence. Confidence draws attention. If you’re hesitant or unsure, listeners may lose interest, so practice speaking up, maintaining eye contact, and using a steady, assertive tone. Confidence invites engagement.

2. Unclear speech. Mumbled or unclear speech can frustrate listeners. Make an effort to articulate your words clearly, project your voice, and maintain a steady pace. The more understandable you are, the easier it is for people to follow your message.

3. Dull delivery. Flat or monotone speaking causes listeners to disengage. Add energy to your speech—vary your tone, use pauses for effect, and show enthusiasm. Engaging delivery can make even routine topics more captivating.

4. Body language. 70% of communication is non-verbal, so avoid closed-off body language like crossed arms or looking down at your feet. Use open gestures, smile, and maintain eye contact to invite conversation and attentiveness.

5. Speaking to the wrong audience. Sometimes, it’s not about how you speak but who you’re speaking to. Understand your audience and tailor your message to resonate with them.

There are also a practices that help with improving the way you communicate and increase your success with engagement:

1. Ask for feedback from trusted friends or colleagues. Don’t be afraid of constructive criticism.

2. Practice telling stories to become more concise and engaging.

3. Record yourself and adjust your body language or speech patterns as needed. John C. Maxwell said it best: “If you don’t capture people’s attention, you won’t capture their hearts and minds.”

Working on your confidence, clarity, and delivery will get people to listen—and value—what you say.

Author: Julia Kerr Henkel

Source: Adapted from The Exceptional Skills.